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God’s not weirded out by it, so why are we?

The Bible’s a lot more OK with talking about healthy sex than we are

Like no tan lines for Adam and Eve, as they enjoy becoming one flesh (Genesis 2.24-25) and bringing babies into the world to enjoy God, His world and one another (Genesis 1.22).


And remember Ruth and Boaz?

So Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife. When he made love to her, the Lord enabled her to conceive, and she gave birth to a son.   Ruth 4.13

Wedding planning, picking out the dress, making the seating chart, ceremony, honeymoon, morning sickness, sonogram, Instagram pics of the peanut-sized baby, labor and delivery, in one verse. More than 9 months in just 15 Hebrew words.

But before the baby, there was sex. Boaz “made love to her.” The English Standard Bible says, “he went in to her.” KJV, “he went in unto her.”

Sex: God’s good creation, God’s good command. He’s not weirded out by it, so why are we?

God created sex for many reasons

•First and foremost, God’s creative, fun way of adding people to enjoy Him and His world.

•As a wonderful connection, bond, and comfort between husband and wife.

•For pure pleasure and fun!

God created sex for a man and a woman who are married. To each other. And no one else.

So here’s the game plan: In the power of God’s Spirit, you wait until you’re married to be sexual. And then you make up for lost time. Song of Solomon, I Corinthians and common sense teach us these truths and more.

Mostly we talk about sex before, or outside of marriage. And we should.

But sometimes sexuality gets fouled up inside marriage.

1 Corinthians 7.1-5 is really helpful here, as is the Song of Solomon. 
1 Corinthians 7.1 is a question asked of Paul by some in Corinth who thought married husbands and wives would be more loved by God if they didn’t have sex, and Paul tells them the Gospel Truth! God wants regular, healthy, good, fun sexuality to be an active part of marriage between a man and a woman.

Of course there are times and seasons, sometimes for medical issues, or sometimes for spiritual or emotional issues, where abstaining from sex in marriage is OK, 1 Corinthians 7.1-5 again. But if such situations go on very long, besides praying, you ought to see a medical doctor, counselor, or pastor to figure out what’s going on. Sex is good for marriage! God’s good!

Two more things about sex in marriage

Guys, husbands (wives, don’t listen): it’s not about power. Never, ever, ever force or coerce. No pressure, and no guilt. No. Contrary to what you might think when you’re ready to roll, that will NOT drive her crazy to have sex with you. Rather, romance. Sex starts in the kitchen—that’s by helping with the dishes and the kids and whatever else she’d love. Listening. Caring. Respecting. Bringing pleasure to her.

Wives (husbands, cover your ears—it’s not your job to remind her what God says!): never use sex as a bargaining chip, a treat, or a reward for good behavior. Rewards are what you give Max, the kid’s pet Hamster. This is your husband. You married him. For better or worse. Flirt with him. Initiate. No cotton nightgowns. Have fun. Ask him.

Boaz got it right. Ruth got it right.

God got it very right.


Check our our current message series, Marriage, Sex and The Gospel.